Children are raised depending on the surrounding environment, situations, health status, beliefs, financial stability of parents, genes and social mentality of the people around. Here, Dr. Jobby George, gives us an insight into what is required for good parenting.
We know that all children are different and unique in personality and habits be they from the same family or even if they are twins. Therefore, it is necessary to have different attitudes and principles while raising each child. But yes,basically what all children need is love, care and impartial and undivided attention. Parenting therefore, means understanding the physical, mental, food, health, social and spiritual growth of child. Here, we can understand how parenting should be done considering the above parameters.
- For the good health of a child,care should start from pregnancy. It is necessary that parents’ are in touch with the baby’s grandparents as this will make parenting easy as a lot of the health and behaviours of the child are inherited. Grandparents can share their experience on parenting and thus lower the worry of the parents.
- After a few weeks from birth, babies are seen to get adjusted to the surrounding climate. In India, babies tend to feel hot as this is a hot country and chubby babies feel a lot more heat. Therefore, they should not be swaddled in warm clothes as this might make them sweaty and lead to diseases like asthma.
- Upto six months of birth,only cotton clothes should be used on babies. These should be breathable, white or light coloured. Clothes whose colours run should also be avoided as they tend to harm the sensitive skin of the infants.
- Babies should be left free without diapers when at home. While using diaperes, parents should make suretochange them every two hours to reduce chances of rashes and infection. Cotton cloth can be used instead of diapers as this is more safe for the baby’s skin,though washing them daily is a trouble.
- Mothers should watch their infants closely to get signs from them for urinating or to pass stool. Babies should be toilet trainedearly itself to avoid washing heaps of soiled clothes.
- Breast feeding should be continued till 2-3 years after birth for good health of the mother and child.
- Don’t always carry babies, they need to be left on the ground so that they can exercise more and grow stronger and faster.
- Exercise is important for children of all ages. To practise this, children should be allowed to play outside in the eveningsunder the sun daily to get their quota of Vit-D and immuno-boosters.
- Make sure to talk to your child always. Listen to them and answer their questions scientifically and logically. Repeat words to babies, sing to them and narrate a lot of stories to them so that their mental acumen is sharpened. Also, speak to them in a normal pronunciation as you would to elders so that they can hear correct and speak correct. Try to avoid speaking to them in babyish language as this will delay their normal speech function.
- Also, babies should be allowed to cry sometimes to increase their lung and heart functions. Parents should never give in to the crankiness and stubbornness of babies. Parents should always have a upper-hand in all their activities with children. Children should learn to take a NO for a NOorelse they will become very demanding and get spoilt easily.
- Children should be made to participate in all activities whithoutasports-man spirit. Participation is very important though forcing them into activities can lead them to feel inferior to their peers andmake them depressed. By the time they are 6 or 7 years of age, parents should understand the likes and interests of their babies.
- Children should be made to understand things and take deep interest in studies. Studies should be introduced to them with a ‘fun’ element. They should never fear exams.A child should never be compared to another for their intellectual or physical performance. It is good to compare his present performance with his past but never with others.
- Children should always be made to understand the value of money. Underspendingon them leads to insecurity and overspending or hoarding on them can lead them to feel that things are easily accessible and that anything can be bought with money.
Food and Health
- Childrenwho fall in the Kapha stage of aging and are in constant contact with other children tends to be frequented with cold, cough and other contagious diseases. They are often in the habit of experimenting and thus put things in their mouth leading to worm infestation. This results in low immunity for their bodies.
- Exercise under the evening sun, good sleep according to age, good appetite and having healthy food are the real immunity boosters for children.
- When starting to feed babies solid food, new food should be introduced to them one at a time. Food should be introduced to them during the mornings to rule out any allergies or other problems.
- When children crave for junk food, make them healthier alternatives to these junk foods. This will leave them healthy too.
- It is observed that growing children tend to eat little and thus they lose weight but gain in height. This happens every 2-4 months in little children too. During these days children should be administered light foods and more of soups.
- When sick, they should be given light foods like rice gruel, bread, phulkas, tomato soup, vegetable soups, etc. And post the sickness their appetite should be revived. Ghee with black pepper should be given to rebuild their strength. Ghee is also known to increases their brain functions and intelligence.
Socially and Spiritually
- Children should be taught to be empathetic to the poor and down trodden.
- They should be taught the right meaning of spirituality. They should be taught to love, forgive and respect all religions.
- They should be taught to be disciplined at home, to behave well in society, be safe and know their surroundings.
- They should be made to do works as per their capacity. They can work along with elders so that they can understand safety measures and learn not to be lazy when they grow up.
- Never instil in your child a feeling of inferiority complex be it in colour, sex, marks, disability, etc.
- Never let your child to shop on their own. Give them proper reasons on why they should not buy a certain stuff. Never give in to their fussiness even if it is in public.
ADVICE TO PARENTS
- Make sure to maintain your good health as parenting is always energy draining. Don’t ever compromise on your food, rest and sleep.
- Parenting is painful and stressful and this is necessary for bringing up bright and healthy children.
- Learn first-hand home remedies and methods to tackle emergencies.
- Behave the way you want your children to behave.
- Practise what you preach, and watch your words and ways as children are copy cats of their parents.
- Never limit to one child as bringing up one child is more taxing and a sibling is a need for the right shaping of a child’s mind.
- Never scold or punish children in public. Never scold the elder in front of the youngers.
- Strong, healthy, bold and fearless parents make a happy and healthy child.
- When you gift children, always consider their age and not your pocket. Markets are now loaded with toys and goodies, but always consider your child’s health and mind first.
- Be a friend to your child, then only they will open up their minds to you. Keep a check of their friend’s circle and sometimes invite them home too.